Dating beyond the apps: Where are Bengaluru’s singles meeting now?

Tired of finding love through a screen? Perhaps the next match is waiting somewhere beyond the app. For years, dating in Bengaluru has been just a swipe away. Open an app, set your preferences, scroll through profiles and wait for a match. But as dating apps become a familiar part of urban relationships, some singles are asking a different question: What if you simply met someone in real life?

Conducted in August 2024, a Rakuten Insight survey of 21,812 Indian respondents aged 16 and above — 9,239 women and 12,573 men — found that a large majority did not use mobile dating apps. The findings suggest that for a sizeable section of Indians, meeting someone offline remains the norm rather than a return to it.

Swipe fatigue is real, but the desire to date hasn’t disappeared. A June 2026 Economic Times report, which spoke to two dozen Indian singles aged 25 to 35, found several describing exhaustion with the “dating hamster wheel”. Some were turning to singles mixers and personalised matchmaking services, signalling a desire for something that feels less transactional and more personal.

In Bengaluru, that search is taking people to places that have little to do with dating — running tracks, book clubs, workshops, concerts, treks, cafés and even introductions arranged by friends.

Friends are the new algorithms

Before dating apps turned compatibility into a set of filters, there was always the friend who knew someone who would be “perfect for you”. That old-fashioned system is finding new takers among singles who would rather have some context before meeting a potential partner.

‘My friends know me better than an algorithm’ is becoming common among those who are tired of making decisions based on a few photographs and carefully curated answers. And there is another advantage — even if the introduction doesn’t lead to romance, there is often a shared social circle to fall back on.

From hobbies to chemistry

Perhaps the most organic route to romance is one where dating isn’t the primary objective at all. Running and cycling groups, trekking communities, book clubs, dance classes, pottery workshops, board-game groups and other interest-based communities are giving singles an opportunity to meet people while doing something they genuinely enjoy.

Arpita Nag, a 29-year-old working professional, says it’s easier to meet people who share similar hobbies. “I like meeting people through activities because you get to see who they really are. You’re not judging someone based on just bios, pictures and pick-up lines; you’re talking, laughing and spending time together, and sometimes that naturally turns into something more.”

The return of the singles event

Speed dating may sound like something from another era, but singles mixers, curated meet-ups, brunches and other dating events are making a comeback. For people who want to meet someone offline but don’t have an extensive social circle, such events offer a middle ground.

Saurav Arya, founder of Small World, which organises speed dating events across the country, says Bengaluru has become a natural hub for offline dating because so many young professionals live independently and are looking to build new social circles. “When your entire week is consumed by work, you don’t want to spend your weekend swiping. People want to meet, talk and see if there’s a connection. There’s a growing appetite for spaces where people can connect without the pressure of finding ‘the one’. That is what makes offline dating events work,” he shares.

The third-place romance

Then there are the places where nobody goes specifically to date. A café where the same people turn up every weekend. A bookstore hosting a discussion. A concert where strangers bond over a favourite musician. A comedy show where two people end up laughing at the same jokes. A cultural event where a conversation continues after the programme ends.

These “third places” — social spaces outside home and work — can provide something dating apps struggle to replicate: repeated, unplanned encounters.

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Source: Rakuten Insight, August 2024; data reported by Statista.

Source: The Times of India